A client told me she had made great strides in her happiness. I suggested that she write down, for herself, how she did that. She shared her answers with me & I'm sharing them with you.
"Expecting perfection only leaves you with two options: do everything right on the very first try, or don’t even bother. Which is actually only one option, since 9 times out of 10, human beings don't do things right on the first try."
So, what imperfect improvement can you make today?
Do not turn away from the challenges of your present. And don't see them as a burden. They are an opportunity. When you battle with the challenges of your present you win the prizes of your future.
If you see it as a loss, you'll probably miss the lesson. My greatest mentor is my own mistakes.
Where are you choosing to cling to comfort? Where are you refusing to let go of your comfort zone so you can truly make progress?
Success is actually a short sprint of consistency, powered by discipline, until habit kicks in & takes over.
"Changemaking isn’t about clearly outlining the rational benefit of your point of view. Changemaking happens when people fall in love with a different version of the future." ~ Seth Godin
When we struggle to reach our goals, it's often because we're choosing a perspective that suggests that making progress towards the goal requires carrying a burden.
If it doesn't feel right, it probably isn't right. Fortunately, we always have the power to choose our way out of those feelings and towards something different.
Where have you allowed allowed waiting to become a habit?
More often than not, we make choices based on what we want most in a moment. As we consider our options, we’re evaluating what is right in front of us and how we're feeling in that moment.
There is a way to improve choices, reduce frustration & increase consistency.
Strive to be "an athlete in the greatest of all contests - the struggle to not be overwhelmed by anything that happens" ~ Marcus Aurelius
Continuous improvement always trumps delayed perfection.
The impossible is usually just the untried. What would happen if you brought a new, unwavering consistency to your goals?
Discipline doesn't mean you don't get what you want when you want it. I means you've chosen something you want even more.
We are creatures of urgency. If we want something, we have to react or decide now. If we feel something, we have to speak or act right away. The discipline of patience reminds us that sometimes the best choice is no choice at all.
Is this the right thing to quit?
Is this the right time to quit?
Is this the right reason to quit?
When you doubt your power, you give power to your doubt. Stop letting your insecurities make decisions for you. Each time you do, you fuel that insecurity and limit your own freedom & happiness.
Nothing beats a failure like a try.
You don't have to quit, you just want to. Whatever your favorite piece of advice is, what are you DOING with it, and with what consistency?
We are usually distracted. While we work on one thing, we're thinking about other things & other situations, at the expense of efficiency & quality. AMRAP mentality can be a powerful way to feel less overwhelmed & more productive.
No matter what happened last, I keep coming back. No matter what, I keep coming back.
Success depends, to a large degree, on how well you communicate with yourself and with others. Results & achievement will benefit from honest, effective & constant communication. Excuses & procrastination often stem from dishonest or incomplete communication with yourself.
You might not think you are lying to yourself, but often times, you are. At best, you’re not telling the whole truth and you’re accepting a story that isn’t the real truth.
The missing link is consistency. Stop talking yourself out of what you can do now on the grounds of what you can't do yet.
You cannot avoid the reality of your problems. You have to face whatever it is you don't want to face and face it consistently. Whether that's a number on the scale, the balance of your bank account or a picture of your body - never turn away again.